Have you ever noticed how anxiety is fueled by one simple question you keep asking yourself?
That question is…what if?
What if I drive my car on the highway and I have a panic attack?
What if faint in public, who will help me?
What if I get sick or lose my job?
What if my mind never stops racing with anxious thoughts?
If anxious ‘what if’s’ are not quickly defused, they tend to spiral out of control, leaping from one catastrophic thought to another. Before you know it these ‘what ifs’ have triggered a tidal wave of adrenaline and fear.
What if?…What if?…And then what if ?
You can’t stop these ‘what if’s’. They manifest outside your control. What you can control is how you respond to them.
In order to defuse these anxious ‘what ifs’ you need to answer the question quickly and limit the potential for the anxiety to spiral out of control.
A good strong response to a ‘what if’ is: ‘So what!’
What if I drive my car on the highway and I have a panic attack?
So what! I’ll pull over and get through it like I have always done in the past.
What if faint in public, who will help me?
So what! If I faint I faint. Someone will come to help me and in two minutes I will be conscious again.
What if my mind never stops racing with thoughts?
So what! Thoughts are just thoughts and cannot harm me. Eventually my anxious mind will settle.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t fully believe in your own responses to these questions, the key point here is to quickly defuse the build up of fear by answering the ‘what if’ with a strong enough response.
As long as you come up with something reassuring and dismissive of the initial ‘what if’ thought it will have the desired effect.
To make your response even more effective you can have a sense of humor with your replies. Humor is the fastest way to disengage your anxious mind. An anxious thought can be diminished in a flash of laughter.
This is effective because it neutralize the fear and places you back into a position of power.
Side step the trap of anxiety by always responding to fear and anxiety with a good strong ‘so what!