I can remember the day that I found Dare, which was quite by chance.
I had all of my team in for a monthly meeting and had struggled to get through the morning session and by lunch time was both physically and mentally exhausted. Everyone had gone out for lunch and all I wanted to do was sit in a quiet room and cry.
I remember looking on Youtube and coming across a video featuring Barry where he talked about hydrating and avoiding caffeine, at the end there was a link to Dare. I struggled for the rest of the day, made it home and thinking I did not have the energy to read, I downloaded the audio book version of the program.
Seven hours later and still wide awake, I felt as if I had suddenly seen the light at the end of the tunnel.
It was almost as if Barry was describing me, everything he said resonated and I realized that I was not alone anymore.
To say I was hooked would be an understatement. Here was a technique that made perfect sense but more importantly to me, what Barry had written was totally authentic.
He had suffered and got through it, though his words he was demonstrating real situational empathy, he knew what I was going through and wanted to help. I had read many books before, but Dare was the only one that answered my questions.
Now I wasn’t anxiety free overnight, I still have the odd bad day but I now know how to deal with the sensations like Barry describes.
They are waves that you just have to learn to ride over and over. I also have the Dare app on my phone and if I am travelling and don’t feel great, I listen to the audio’s.
The three things that have helped me the most are 1. What I call the “Green splat” My little monster that I allow to come with me wherever I go and if it wants to cause trouble then that’s ok, it can come out of its box whenever it chooses too, although it rarely makes an appearance these days. 2.
Barry saying that everyone wants to see the photos- I have probably taken this more literally than others being a keen photographer, but it gave me the inspiration to get back out there and start taking them again. This time last year, I could hardly leave the house.
Finally, I won’t suffer in silence. I am proud that I suffer from anxiety and I tell as many people about it as I can. This for me was so cathartic, I won’t hide away and let it rule my life. My team at work, colleagues and peers, my boss and my friends all know I suffer.
It has opened so many doors for me and has helped me become the person I am today.
It has amazed me how many people have told me that they have been suffering for years from it but have always been too scared to admit it for fear of appearing to be weak.
Many of them are now using DARE to help them on their journey to recovery.
I truly believe that if it can help just one person with their anxiety, then suffering was so worth it. Dare is a small word, but the impact it can have on your life is massive.
I will forever be thankful to Barry for is work. I am a massive advocate of his work and I promise you that if you give it a chance DARE will provide you with the answers and support that you have been looking for.
The best part about being able to get out and about again now that I have got my anxiety under control is that I have rediscovered my passion for photography and that my 2 spaniels are getting amazing walks. I have said it before but DARE gave me my life back when I discovered Barry’s work.
Hope you like Kibble’s superman impression today in the middle of the North Yorkshire Moors. Belated happy new year to you all.